SEX AND SUCCESS

Recently, I just finished reading the "Awaken The Giant Within" by Anthony Robbins. It is really a good self-help book which really inspired me to work harder to achieve my life goal. Following by that, i started to read the "Think And Grow Rich" by Napoleon Hill.

In the introduction chapter, an interesting paragrahps caught my attention. It is about sex and succcess of man. To all the male out there, please read this and think about it....

Hill noticed that younger men dissipate much of their great energy in sex itself and the pursuit of it, when the same energy, redirected, could go into great accomplishment.

His research showed that most people do not reach their peak of achievement until at least 40 or 50 when they have discovered, often by accident that their creativity and output increases when they have had to pour their normal sexual energy into their work.

Though Hill was careful not to say ‘don’t have sex’, particularly if in a loving relationship, his point was that we should aim to be the beneficiary of our sex drive, ‘not a victim of it’.

Actually, I really feel happy and excited that I came to discover this "theory" not long time ago. At the same time, It is nice to know that I have the same thinking with Sir Napoleon Hill.

The Key of Hapiness In Life...

Have you watch the Night At The Museum 2 ? I did watched this movie recently and got a clear message about the key of hapiness in life beside enjoyed this comedy show. The main message that i got and learned from this movie is that ... THE KEY TO HAPPINESS IS DOING WHAT YOU LOVE TO DO WITH THE PEOPLE YOU LOVE MOST.

I believe that everybody have their own key to open the door into the life's happiness. For me, i always agreed that passion and love for what you are doing is the key of hapiness in life. Besides that, spending my time with my loved one, family and friends is just the elevated highway toward happiness in life.

Please allow me to share a small paragraph of meaningful words from Awaken The Giant Within by Anthony Robbin....

"The only way for us to have long-term happiness is to live by our highest ideals, to consistently act in accordance with what we believe our life is truly about. But we can't do this if we don't clearly know what our values are. This is the biggest tragedy in most people's lives. Many people know what they want to have, but have no idea of who they want to be. Getting "things" simply will not fulfill you. Only living and doing what you believe is "the right thing" will give you that sense of inner strength that we all deserve".

It is always my priorities to do whatever that i love to do in order to enjoy each moment in my life. How about you? Are you on your way to happiness in life?

DREAM BIG, DARE TO DREAM

All of us, regardless of your race, religions, what languages you speak, wherever you living, had been given permission to dream big dreams.

One of my life's philosophy is always dare to dream, acquires the knowledge and skills and put all the efforts and working hard towards your dream. Believe me, you will lead a happy and live your life to the fullest :)

About myself, as an structural engineer, always dream to be involved in the design and building of the highest and tallest building in the world.. at least as tall as our beloved KLCC. Back to my school time, i may not believe i will achieve my dream to become an engineer. But, i worked hard toward my dream and finally i succeed to join the rank of the professional as an engineer. Now, the tallest tower, longest bridges, biggest structure are always in my dream..... How about your dream?

"Give yourself permission to dream. Fuel your kids' dreams, too. Once in a while, that might even mean letting them stay up past their bedtimes".

Randy Pauch (Author of The Last Lecture)

Actions Is The Best Way of Learning....

It have been two months time since my last entry and finally i get back to share something here. Recently, i did invest a lot of time to read a few interesting and informative books related to financial and business knowledge. It really opened up my mind and change my thinking and mindset. Until now, i think it is time for me to take action... because the best way of learning is by taking action, which is doing the real thing and simulating the real experience. We only can go ahead toward any goals if determined to take action after acquiring the required knowledge and information by reading, consultation by others, mentoring or any others method.

According to a study by Arizona State University (2005) which introduced the Cone of Learning and it emphasized that after two weeks, we tend to remember :
a) 90% of what we say and do
b) 70% of what we say
c) 50% of what we hear and see
d) 30% of what we see
e) 20% of what we hear
f) 10% of what we read

So, it is time to get started to act upon your plan.. whether your business plan, study plan, travelling plan and so on. How about me? It is my Goal Achievement Plan planned since a long time ago :)

Happy New Year !!!

Today is the first day of the year of 2009 or can be a new starting line for anything u wish or want to do. I just want to take the opportunity to wish all my friends a healthy, peaceful and joyful moment ahead.

Look back and review what have been done by you, learn from all the experiences in 2008 and finally it is time to set the goal and planning for the right strategies toward success.

Most importantly, act upon your plan is the key of success. Happy New Year :)

It's About Beauty...

What is your definition of beauty or pretty?? I am sure that most of you all want to look beautiful from others eyes... I read about a comment from The Star (Starmag) about the beauty issue. Just like to post it here for you to think about it..

It's all a beauty trap....

We've heard the word "beauty" all the time, regardless of which culture we are from. What is the definition of beauty?

I say beauty is actually beyond appearances and being fashionable. Being beautiful is all about being yourself, having self-esteem and loving oneself, regardless of being not-so-perfect.

Unfortunately, in this day and age, our women and girls resort to starving, waxing, dyeing, plucking, tanning, whitening and even going under the knife just to look like an A-list celebrity or be able to wear something in the name of fashion and beauty rather than for comfort and durability.

It is no surprise that women and girls have low self-esteem. They believe that they do not fulfill the alleged standards of beauty.

Beauty does not have any criteria and anyone can be beautiful, regardless the shape of her figure, her skin tone, or her dress size.

Unfortunately, the media and fashion industry tell our womenfolk that they need the latest look, lose a few kilos or puchase the most expensive narrow high heeled Manolo Blahniks in order to be beautiful.

Unless we tackle this issue, we are going to witness a future generation of women and girls who believe that one needs to look like celebrities in order to be beautiful.
(S.Yin, Auckland, New Zealand)

MEETING NEW AND OLD FRIENDS….AND THEIR PROBLEMS

Recently, I spent a lot of time in meeting new and old friends around the town. Besides got to keep contact again with my old friends, I got to extend my circle of friends by meeting some interesting people around. Meanwhile, I came to discover the dilemmas faced by the people in this modern society.

Some of them just complained that money is not enough and they struggle hard earn more money in order to make end meet. Consequently, they just blamed that their current job can’t earn enough and looking for better job with higher pay. THIS IS MONEY PROBLEMS OF NOT ENOUGH MONEY…

Some of them who did well in their career and doing great in business, however just did not have enough time for their family and themselves. They earned a lot of money but sacrificed their quality time with their family and also their health. In the end, they were facing with family problems, and health problems. Most interestingly, some of them have the money problems of too much money. They may not have the time to spend the money earned; they may worry how to keep it safe and invested. They may not know whether people like them, or their money. AGAIN, THIS IS MONEY PROBLEMS OF TOO MUCH MONEY…

However, some people have problem with the people around them. They do not know how to maintain a good relationship with their family and friends. They are not popular in their office or home as well. So, they are always alone wherever they go. They just feel lonely and need someone to talk to sometime. They need the care and love of friends and family members.

Lastly, some of them around the age of 20 something to 30 something (young adults), they may not have money problem and may did well in their career. But, they feel lonely deep in their hearth because short of love and caring from someone they long awaited. They may look for life partner, love partner or sex partner. But, they just do not meet their Mr. Right or Ms. Right yet.
Lately, my interest in study human character, lifestyle and problems faced by them were grown deeper. At the same time, I came to understand and know more about myself and solve the problems toward a better quality life ahead.

Whatever the problems, I still believed that there will be a solution which guide us towards betterment of life and finally acquire the life’s riches.

Can I Borrow $25 ???

A good and meaningful story to share with everyone :)

A man came home from work late, tired and irritated to find his 5 years old son waiting for him at the door.

SON: Daddy, may I ask you a question?

DAD: Yeah sure, what it is?

SON: Daddy, how much do you make an hour?

DAD: That's none of your business. Why do you ask such a thing?, the man said angrily.

SON: I just want to know. Please tell me, how much do you make an hour?

DAD: If you must know, I make $50 an hour.

SON: "Oh" The little boy replied, with his head down. "Daddy, may I please borrow $25?"

The father was furious, "If the only reason you asked that is so you can borrow some money to buy a silly toy or some other nonsense, then you march yourself straight to your room and go to bed. Think about why you are being so selfish. I don't work hard everyday for such childish frivolities."

The little boy quietly went to his room and shut the door.

The man sat down and started to get even angrier about the little boy’s questions. How dare he ask such questions only to get some money?

After about an hour or so, the man had calmed down, and started to think: Maybe there was something he really needed to buy with that $25.00 and he really didn’t ask for money very often. The man went to the door of the little boy’s room and opened the door.

“Are you asleep, son?”, he asked.

“I’ve been thinking, maybe I was too hard on your earlier,” said the man. “It’s been a long day and I took out my aggravation on you. Here’s the $25 you asked for.”

The little boy sat straight up, smiling. “Oh, thank you daddy,” he yelled. Then, reaching under his pillow he pulled out some crumpled up bills.

The man saw that the boy already had money, started to get angry again.

The little boy slowly counted out his money, and the looked up at his father.
“Why do you want more money if you already have some?”, the father grumbled.

“Because I didn’t have enough, but now I do,” the little boy replied. “Daddy, I have $50 now. Can I buy an hour of your time? Please come home early tomorrow. I would like to have dinner with you.”

The father was crushed. He put his arms around his little son, and he begged for his forgiveness.

It’s just a short reminder to all of you working so hard in life. We should not let time slip through our fingers without having spent some time with those who really matter to us, those close to our hearts. Do remember to share that $50 worth of your time with someone you love. Have we forgotten what is really important in life? Too caught up in money, personal ambitious, and forgot how to enjoy and appreciate the sweet simplicities in life?

If we die tomorrow, the company that we are working for could easily replace us in a matter of hours. But the family and friends we leave behind will feel the loss for the rest of their lives.

MAKING & KEEPING PROMISES

Everyday, we tend to make a lot of promises. During working hours, we have to promise our clients on the services or products delivery due date. Even in our personal life, we have to promise our loved one, family members and friends to help them to do whatever things requested. However, how often we can keep our promises and make our clients, friends or whoever concern happy and satisfy with the realization of our promise? I believe that, sometime we keep our promises and sometime tends to broke our promises because certain circumtances. For instance, you may promise to help your wife on the gardening works in your house's garden. She will definitely feels happy if you really can make it. On the other hand, if you can't keep your promise and delay your work again and again, the amount of trust on you will decrease from time to time. Do you have the same experience on this? I think it should be normal life experience :) Do you have any idea to increase other's confidence and trust on us by keeping promises?

In my opinion, how about we start it by making and keeping promises to ourselves ??? When we really can make and keep a promise to ourself first, then only we can promises others people and make it happen all the time. Are you agree on this??

Stephen Covey said in "First Things First"....

Making and keeping promises is one of the best ways to strengthen our independent will. Each time we do, we make deposits in our Personal Integrity Account. This is a metaphor that describes the amount of trust we have in ourselves, in our ability to walk our talk.

It is important to start small, make and keep a promise, even if it means you're going to get up in the morning a little earlier and exercise. Be sure you don't violate that commitment and be sure you don't overpromise and underdeliver. Don't risk making a withdrawal from the Personal Integrity Account. Build slowly until yoursense of honor becomes greater than your moods.

Our lives are the results of our choices. We choose either to live our lives or to let others live them for us. By making and keeping promises to ourselves and to others, little by little we increase our strength until our ability to act is more powerful than any of the factors that act upon us.

Just look back on some of our personal experience, we promises to..
a) wake up a bit earlier for morning jog...
b) finish some houseworks after a tiring working days...
c) and so on...

TO some of us, we really can't keep our promises even it is just a small matter. So learn to make and keep small promises by today before going for the big one..

Have a nice day :)

IT'S NOT A SPRINT, IT’S A MARATHON !!!!

If you’d never run a mile and I told you to run a marathon today, that would seem impossible, wouldn’t it?

But you know how all long-distance runners start?

They start by running just a block or two their first day of training. Actually, most don’t run. They just jog. And some don’t even jog. They just sort of walk first.

The point is, they start off going maybe two blocks, then three blocks, then a half-mile, then a mile, then a couple of miles.

And before they know it, several months have passed and they’ve gone from being out of shape to being able to run a marathon. (Source: Start Late, Finish Rich by David Bach)

“I have run in marathons. To prepare for a marathon, I would practice running 8 km daily for three months before the event. Two weeks before the marathon, I would practice at least one 21 km trial run.”

“During the actual marathon, I remember that after the first half of the run, that is, the first 21 km, I would be exhausted. I would ask myself at that point: Why am I doing this? Still, if I had given up the race then and walked back, I would still have to travel 21 km to the starting point, just as if I continued, I would have 21 km ahead of me to the finish line. I had no choice but to complete the whole 42 km run.”

“The second half of the run is harder; it took all of my mind to push my tired legs to move forward one step at a time. Life is a lot like running a marathon. You can achieve anything extraordinary by firstly, being prepared for it, and secondly, by persisting at it”, said Dr. Peter Yee ( author of The Certain Way to Life’s Riches).